How resilient are YOU?

How resilient are YOU?

How resilient are YOU?  What does resilience really look like?  Resilience is often defined as the ability to recover from difficulties or stress, and also refers to the elasticity of a subject or object. Hmmmm, now where do you see traits of resiliency in your being?

All mammals come into being with a certain level of resiliency at birth as part of their nervous system, there is the survival mechanism that give us all the ability to fight or flee (sympathetic nervous system activation), followed by settling or recovery (parasympathetic nervous system activation.)  

As Oren Sofer says, "We need resilience to face pain. And there’s nothing quite like joy to bring resilience and strength to the heart."  And it is often more the act of receiving and fully savoring JOY than the act of creating it.  How curious is that?  He goes on to say, "This receiving is characterized by qualities of openness and connection. It’s not so much something we do as something that happens naturally when we slow down and give ourselves time and space to be...It’s the quality that emerges when you stop and close your eyes to feel the sun on your face; or the inner quiet that comes as you gently shut your eyes and lean in close to smell the fragrance of a flower. It’s the feeling of ease we experience when spending time with a good friend."  His perspective gives us a chance to look at how we experience joy rather than simply fact checking the who, what and where to find joy, in order to be resilient in the challenges of our daily life.

As an entrepreneur, ironically in the flower business, I noticed how often I would be racing around and checking off my to-do list, only to end up spinning my wheels and out of sorts from being busy. As a a daily practice, I began to connect to my ‘presence’ in a few short minutes and this has given me greater access to my resilience. Small snippets of pausing or a 5 minute walk outside, resets my system and I connect with something that brings me JOY in the present moment to help stave off burnout and recover much quicker from a hectic morning or a day of back-to-back meetings.

What are you up to in this busy modern world? How are you experiencing JOY? Any resilience hacks you can share?

Create or Die!

Create or Die!